We all know those moments. Someone shares a really intriguing snippet of information, adding, “I’m just telling you—please don’t share this with anyone.” You’re amazed when you discover how quickly it can travel: from the coffee machine chatter to the inevitable “a source who requested anonymity” in a public forum.

It’s human nature to be curious about our colleagues and the world around us. A little harmless gossip about weekend plans or a shared laugh over a funny office moment can build bonds and camaraderie. However, when gossip strays into sensitive territory, it’s no longer harmless—it can become dangerous.

For example:

• Discussing confidential business plans or a potential merger could jeopardise strategic goals (and possibly your job) if the information leaks.
• Sharing personal details, such as a colleague’s health or private matters, might not only violate trust but also harm their well-being.
• Worse, revealing protected information, like personal addresses, could lead to safety risks—such as in situations involving domestic abuse.

Before sharing any information, ask yourself: If this were about me, would I want it shared?

The reality is, today’s storyteller can easily become tomorrow’s subject. Being mindful about what we share isn’t just a matter of professionalism—it’s about respecting the dignity, safety, and trust of those around us.

So aim to keep coffee chats fun, positive, and empowering. After all, a team built on trust is a team that thrives.

Talk to us at www.defyexpectations.co.uk if you want to build teams that trust and deliver